Conditioned system !!!!!!!!!!

You keep quite & the world will take advantage of you. Well, it must be true, but question is,' IS it actually/really true??' Well, if you dont talk much, does it mean that you are scared , fearful, etc?????? Can't you be quite & still be recognized, let people not take advantage of you or let yourslef not get exploited ?????I went for counselling to my college where , sir told me the answer to this question. He said that people who say such things or tag you with names have conditioned themselves to these things that they have seen or have lived their life in these conditions. They have not seen beyond this. They know that people whom talk will always win but they have not seen where by staying quite also people win as their work speaks for them. They do not realise that by doing /saying so what the person who is been said to is going through. They don't know what physical/mental problems is going within him/her when he/she hears such thing. Not only their morale goes down but also self confidence goes for a toss. People who wants the person to be bold & confident is losing them coz people don't realise that even if they are saying this to help , it's not helping the peroson but pushing him/her away from it.Every person is UNIQUE within himself/herself & people should try & let them be as they are & try to understand them instead of putting their thinking into the person , lets the person think what he/she is capable of or what they can do. Stop judging people & telling them what you feel is right or wrong, let him/her decide this for themselves. Be a GUIDE & not a DICTATOR.